When Your Design Styles Clash…
You want to paint the fireplace stone white, your spouse doesn’t. You want built-ins, your spouse doesn’t. Your spouse loves that deer head (after all, he spent 6 hours in a tree stand for that beast!), you don’t. Your spouse frowns at painting any piece of wood furniture, you have paintbrush in hand ready to go. You and your spouse have different design styles, how on earth do you make them work together and decorate your home?!
Follow along and let’s blend your styles to create a space you both will love!
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Now just let me say, I come from a place of experience with this one. We built a room addition 2 years ago and decorating it was quite a challenge. It wasn’t really to hard for me to blend our two styles together because I love an eclectic mix of everything.
My hubby really didn’t have strong opinions on the decor.
He didn’t want built ins and he wanted a ceiling fan.
He got his ceiling fan and I got my built ins…open backed ladder shelves with drawers at the bottom. They look great flanking the GINORMOUS tv he had to have and he likes them because they aren’t white and they aren’t closed in. WIN WIN!
I was excited to go shopping for another couch and chair (did I mention this room is 900 sq. ft.?). He knows me well and knew we would spend hours looking at all of the furniture options so he called ahead and asked if they had another set of what we already had.
HA! He ruined all my fun, but in the end it was the best choice. We both have our own comfy recliner and the two leather couches face each other and invite conversation when we have family over.
I have added wall decor and throw pillows (he doesn’t care two wits about any of that) and I try to keep his design style in mind whenever I make a decor choice for the room.
What is your design style?
You must first start by figuring out each of your design styles. Take my DESIGN QUIZ to help you, it has already helped hundreds of people define their style!
If you get the same style that’s a bonus! If not, don’t stress it. We can work through it.
Decorate together with Color
Color preferences can change over time and with new trends that come along, but nailing down the basic color scheme for your home is a must.
Think about how each of you wants your home to feel. Write it down. No really….write it down, I’ll wait. Writing it down makes it real and it gives you evidence when your significant other says they don’t like a color they picked (wink, wink).
Comfortable. Inviting. Warm. Airy. Relaxing….you get the idea. Pick out the ones that are similar. A home can be both comfortable and airy, that is where the blending comes into play.
Choose a base color that you both can live with and then decide on your accent colors. A base color would be a neutral color to build the rest of your design around. Then choose accent colors to achieve the look and feel you both have decided on. My post EXPERT TIPS FOR ADDING COLOR TO YOUR SPACE goes into more detail on how to put together a color scheme.
Decorate together with Furniture
Next I want each of you to pick one piece of furniture you can’t live without. Like if it was the only piece of furniture you could take to a desert island, it would be THIS.PIECE.OF.FURNTURE.
Your piece is modern, your spouse’s is traditional. Think of one good thing you can say about the other’s choice.
Maybe it’s the color or fabric.
It could be it’s shape.
Maybe it is how freaking comfortable it is.
It’s okay if they aren’t the same style. Build on and choose other pieces based on what you like about each other’s favorite. Once you add accessories to the space, you will never notice how different they truly are.
Decorate together with Accessories
Let’s talk accessories. You know, the small things that hang on the walls and sit on the tables or lay on the couches or beds. Smalls and soft furnishings.
I want each of you to choose three small decor items that you love.
Maybe you love the color.
The material it is made from.
Maybe it is the shape you love.
It has sentimental value.
Now, name one thing you like about the other’s choices. Are you seeing a pattern? I certainly hope so, it is the art of blending styles and compromise. Don’t stress that they aren’t the same design style! Adding items that have some element in common will make it all fit together.
Don’t discount each other’s likes and dislikes, work together to make it a place you love to come home to.
Agree to agree on the big purchases. They are the most expensive to replace, so you need to get it right the first time.
The most important thing to remember is that it isn’t worth having a blow out over. It is just a house. What you do together and the love you put into it, is what will make it a home you will love.
Do you and your significant other have the same style? Are your styles different? How do you mix them together? I would love to hear all about it in the comments below.
Until next time,